There are probably a couple of things that you do not know about first e-mails. And sure, there may be a couple of things that you have done or will do in the future, which is actually an e-mail “DON’T.” Don’t worry, you are not alone, because a large percentage of online uniform daters make a few “subtle” e-mail offenses towards their prospective match that they are not even aware of. So be warned.

Most of the time, the e-mail don’ts are actually the most obvious. Even a novice at uniform online dating could see. But there are still some very glaring mistakes that some people keep making, just because they do not know that it is a mistake, so let’s try to discuss a few of them in this blog article so that we may keep from scaring away those singles and in the process, to start internet dating. Here goes:

1. Overselling. There is such a thing as going over the edge in trying to sell yourself. It’s a good thing to be bold and stand out from other people on his list but just downplay it a little. Why? Because most people don’t like braggarts and people with too much confidence in themselves. Phrases like, “Girls are always chasing after me”, or “I have guys wrapped around my finger all the time”, it’s your fastest ticket to the Delete button. Along with a raised eyebrow, a scoffing smile, and an “I-don’t-believe-this-person” thought, that other person may get a wrong impression of you, and we sure don’t want that to happen because we want them to realize how much of a good catch you actually are.

2. Underselling. Do not sell yourself short. You are a great person and you need to show that and believe that you are. Avoid statements that implies insecurity such as “I know you have far greater people on your list than me” or “If you’re interested, you can view my profile”, or worse “You probably won’t like me anyway”, these phrases connote a low self-esteem and low self-confidence and surely it will get you nowhere. Nobody wants to be someone who doesn’t like themselves. They probably would not want to go out with someone who thinks that they aren’t worth the salt.

3. Creepiness. Downplay the stalker attitude. Read their profiles thoroughly, but do not mention everything in it that would make you sound like a stalker. Do not propose to meet up with each other in the first e-mail because that will surely sound warning bells in the other person’s head. Nor shall you be too sexual, perverted, or flirtatious. Because then, that would earn you a one-way ticket to the “Blocked User” list.